Marriage-Arrange v/s Love

Sakha saptapada bhava.

Samraagni bhava samraagni!

Surya chandramam eva vayam.

Deergh ayushman bhava.

Sumangali iyam vadhoor imakam 

Sarve sametha pashyatha.

Sakhyam te gamishyam.

As these mantras echoed around the pandal full of relatives and friends, Anidhya and Saumarya, promised to be each other's 'better-half' till death do them apart.

At one part of India...Jeet and Aruna...sneaked out to a temple to get married with an Arya samaj padwiti..without friends and family..because their parents thought they were inappropriate for each other.

These two couples started their married life same day..at same time..in different ways.

Anidhya and Saumarya were as good as strangers...completely ignorant of each other's tastes and choices. Jeet and Aruna knew each other inside out....strength...weaknesses...likes...dislikes...everything.

which ones of these are going to live "happily ever after" tale???

This is an endless discussion...only reasons and arguments...and no results.

Arrange marriage is like a blooming rose...one petal at a time...you take time..to know your partner...and fall in love gradually..romance blooms like tender petals of roses..you learn to depend and take care...began to respect..the partner..its like finding a person in the crowd and realizing the companion in him/her. But sometimes roses wither before they could bloom. At times, what you get doesn't meet your expectations...either you move out or compromise..and stay bound unhappily till the end.

while,

in love marriage, couples are like each other's homes...of which they know every nook and corner....every ascend and descend...where you can walk comfortably even in the dark. they know each other so well...that they can just figure each other out easily...words lose their importance...conversation becomes stealth. Sometimes, you feel sure you know the other one to the core...but marriage brings out the shades unknown.

Privacy is one integral element in marriage..or is it?? When you have a mother in law needing you around in kitchen, a father in law in dire need of anytime tea, a sister in law asking for your advice on what to wear to college, a brother in law in such a hurry that he is ready to run without his breakfast..where do you find some alone time with your partner. Yes, this is the arranged marriage. But haven't you seen the couples sneaking and stealing some privacy? and haven't you found it romantic?

Thanks god love marriages offers you copious privacy..do what you want, live as you like. But doesn't the easily available privacy gets unimportant? Romance tends to fade slowly because it is easy.

But where is the security and the facility..when you have a child..or when you are too tired to cook and clean..or you are down with some illness..who looks after you?

Every coin has a head and a tail. The type of marriage is not important to keep it alive...what works is how keen you are to make it work. Marriage- love or arranged is more a question of where you create a compatibility..of where you are willing to make it work..of where you find a moment and work to make it perfect..than of love or arranged.

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